Tuesday, February 16, 2010

1 vs 2

Well it's been 7 weeks, and we have semi started to get used to our schedule. I say semi because we started bottle feeding yesterday and it has thrown us for a little loop, but in general we've acclimated to normal life, minus sleep :)

I spend a lot of time thinking about the differences between having one and now having two. I love having two for many reasons, and think that the adjustment to two isn't NEARLY as hard as adjusting to your first. Here are the reasons why.

1. Even though my epidural never kicked in, I now know I can have an enjoyable birthing experience. Kylers was horrific, Quinns was painful but quick. Now I won 't be so terrified if there is a third :)

2. Life is busy, which is SO good. With Kyler all I thought about was Kyler...why wasn't he sleeping, why didn't he eat well, am I playing with him enough, is he learning what he needs to. With Quinn I don't have the time to think about most of those things. I still wish I had more time to play with him, but when it comes to eating and sleeping, I do the best I can and don't worry about the rest because I have Kyler to be with too, and that helps take the stress out of things.

3. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. This time around I haven't read any books (except what to expect the first year). And I LOVE it! I was so stressed out that Kyler wasn't doing what the "books" said he should be doing. I enjoy Quinn so much more when I just let him do his thing.

4. Family time. It's been so fun having family time. Having both boys in the tub as Brian and I play with them, then we BOTH get to be apart of bedtime and it feels like family time instead of a chore because we're both tired.

In short, I was scared spitless for Quinn to come. I wasn't sure I was cut out for two kids. But now I'm SO glad we took that leap of faith and prepared for Quinn when we did. It's shown me that babies can be a joy, and that I can follow my heart and things will turn out right. Good luck to all my friends who are expecting baby one, or two, in the next few weeks!!!

6 comments:

Tiffany said...

I am so lucky I get to go through this great adventure with you Tiffany. I know it isn't always easy but I am happy. I hope I make you happy too.

Ashley said...

Thanks for the boost! Here's to hoping things go just as well for us with #2.

Amy said...

I like your positive thinking, and I hope my experience with two is as good as yours!

Ken and Amy said...

You are a great mommy...I'm just sure of it! And you have adorable boys. You are doing a great job!

Corinne said...

I enjoyed your post. It is scary contemplating the changes of a growing family but it is always worth it. Three is just as wonderful if not more then two and as I think about having a fourth someday I am actually excited (despite being pregnant) about adding another sweet baby to the mix.

Spencer and Maren said...

I agree that two is better than one. They can keep eachother company when they get bigger. I also agree that it keeps your mind busier so that you don't obsess.